Mom & Dad’s 65th Wedding Anniversary Today

by eric swanson on December 26, 2012

 Mother and Dad Wedding PicMother and Dad celebrate 65 years of marriage today. On December 26, 1947 Violet Gustafson and Boyd Swanson tied the knot at the First Lutheran Church in Gladstone, Michigan. They had cake, punch, coffee Ida Strand made open faced sandwiches for the reception. They honeymooned the first night in Marinette, Mi Northland Hotel and then on to Northland Hotel in Green Bay, WI. They borrowed uncle Rudy’s car for the trip and got a flat tire on the way to green Bay. They stopped in Iron Mountain at a restaurant for breakfast and ran into a chum from  IMG_7485 Augustine Nursing College. “That was a long time ago.” Dad to this day says, “Isn’t she the best?!?!” Yes, they’ve been good to each other and for each other. I don’t know of any couple of any age who has done love and marriage better. Thanks Mom and Dad. The shadow your lives cast falls over three more generation—4 kids, 10 grandkids, and 12 great-grandkids with one on the way.  You continue to bless us all by being so full of life and so full of love! Thanks Mom and Dad…. We all love you and admire you so much!

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Christmas 1971

by eric swanson on December 24, 2012

This poem was written by my cousin Dennis’ son, Mark Berglund, recalling Christmas at our house in Stockton, CA 41 years ago. Mark captured for all of us a magic moment in time that we all who were there remember as if it were yesterday. All the older relatives have passed except for Mom and Dad, who still live in this same house—celebrating Christmas with those lucky enough to be there this evening.

And as I do most every year, the older that I get;

I think of all the Christmases I never will forget.

The one that’s in my thoughts right now is from when I was eight.

Riding to my Uncle’s house……. December twenty-eight.

Packed into my grandfather’s big Oldsmobile for hours.

With Mom and Grandma’s perfume smelling just like Christmas flowers.

Grandpa driving..not too fast–in fact a little slow,

Tuned in to his favorite station…News KSFO.

And, like a nervous co-pilot, my Grandma keeps an eye

on my Grandpa’s driving and the others passing by.

Then we hit the summit and around the final bend,

The Sacramento valley stretched out below from end to end.

And that’s when we all knew that the drive would soon be done.

We’d be at Uncle Boyd’s house soon for dinner, friends, and fun.

Grandma warns us cautiously, not to be to hasty.

“We still have lots of road left, down the hill and on through Tracy”.

Then the final clover leaf, our turnoff just ahead.

My sister crying next to me (she needed to be fed).

It didn’t even bother me. I didn’t really care.

‘Cause we were coming to their street, we were nearly there!

An end was finally coming to our small cross country ride,

and I started to recognize the cars all parked outside.

Then across the street we walked, me kicking fallen leaves,

to the house with Christmas lights all hanging from the eaves.

And when the door was opened, I saw people everywhere.

A relative on every stool, sofa, couch, and chair.

Perhaps the thing that I’ll remember most of all forever,

is everybody smiling. Happy just to be together.

Now I can appreciate the organization

that it takes to orchestrate such a celebration.

The meal that was timed and served to absolute perfection,

to people seated everywhere in everywhich direction!

And Michigan… the topic of at least one conversation.

The story of the grocery store, the family, and migration.

Chances for us all to get to know each other better.

And wear our nicest festive blouses, Christmas ties, and sweaters.

A chance for us to play real football on the lawn.

With a real football player…with U.C. sweatshirts on!

Then back inside the house, Ho Ho-ing through the door,

Santa came in, looking like someone we’d seen before.

Sack in hand, he quickly picked my sister up to hold her,

and placed her miles above the floor up upon his shoulders.

To this day I still remember what it was he brought me.

A toy jeep, with a bow on top, is what that Santa got me!

And so the night got older, and the children started fading.

In the kitchen sounds of coffee…… slowly percolating.

Soon we’d be back on the road… me, there fast asleep;

dreaming of the football game, my sweatshirt, and Jeep.

Later, we’d get pictures back from that Christmas Day.

We’d put them in an album. Then we’d pack them all away.

And years from then, I’d look at my own children…as a Dad.

And think back to that Christmas, and what a time we had.

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Strategy Canvas & Externally Focused Small Groups

November 23, 2012

A couple of weeks ago we had the last session of our Externally Focused Small Groups (EFSGs) InnovationLab. It was a great InnovationLab consisting of 5 churches who, a year ago, had 55 EFSGs but ended up 386. Here are a few ideas behind the power of EFSGs: 1. Although good deeds create good will [...]

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Moneyball and your marriage

November 20, 2012

Most of you have seen the movie Moneyball, based on Michael Lewis’ book of the same title. The story is built around how manager, Billy Beane, used statistical analysis to build a contending world championship team. Until Billy Beane’s approach, conventional wisdom held that big league scouts could best pick winning players, based on their [...]

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Starting With Why: Getting More Traction in Your Ministry

October 28, 2012

How important is your church’s mission? Who even remembers what the mission is? How do you know if your mission is the “right” mission? A couple weeks ago Leadership Network convened the first Marriage Ministry InnovationLab, consisting of seven churches with an average weekly attendance of 3,500. Each of these churches had a fairly robust [...]

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What I learned about Marriage Ministry after looking at the Websites of Outreach’s 100 largest churches

September 21, 2012

In preparation for leading Leadership Network’s Marriage Ministry InnovationLab (http://leadnet.org/site/page/3233) I spent several hours looking up Websites to discover what the 100 largest churches are doing in ministry to married couples. Yes, I looked at all 100 of them. Here are a few observations. Of the 100 largest churches in the U.S., 36 /100 had [...]

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What percentage of married people are happy?

August 3, 2012

Lately I’ve been asking people, “What percentage of married people do you think would say they are happily married?” I’ve heard responses from 5 percent to 40 percent. But the correct answer is pretty astonishing. Every year since 1973 researchers at the University of Chicago have been conducting a “Trends in Wellbeing” study (http://www.norc.org/PDFs/publications/GSSTrendsinWellbeing_March2011.pdf). One [...]

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What we can learn from Ecotones

July 25, 2012

We’ve seen them but never known what they are called. They are those spaces between ecosystems—between forest and grasslands, between mountain forest and alpine life zone, between water and land between two bodies of water—any place where two distinct ecosystems collide and force adaptation and evolution. It is in ecotones where life happens and thrives [...]

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Thinking about spiritual growth

July 25, 2012

One of big issues facing churches today is what they are doing about helping their members develop and grow into followers of Jesus. Call it spiritual growth or spiritual formation; it’s about growing up as a Christian. In 2007 Willow Creek Community Church concluded a multi-year, multi-church study to determine which ministries were actually helping [...]

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The Power of Redemption: Understanding Post–traumatic Growth Syndrome

July 22, 2012

Recently I watched Jane McGonigal’s latest TED video (http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/en/jane_mcgonigal_the_game_that_can_give_you_10_extra_years_of_life.html). In her talk she referred to something that I’ve seen but never heard defined before—“post-traumautic growth.” We have become increasingly aware of those suffering from PTSD—“post traumatic stress disorder. Experienced most commonly by our returning soldiers, PTSD can be debilitating and paralyzing. But there is another [...]

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